We want to feel more, that’s the problem and also part of the solution. Feelings only tell us what is happening in the moment. They don’t tell our bodies how to change directly. We need to change because feelings only give us experiences we already know about. You need the unknown experiences to get change in your use.
We need a way out of our normal experience otherwise we will just keep doing what feels right. If we just do what feels right nothing will ever really change, because we just do what we already know. Somehow we have to make a jump to the unknown.
“To see one must go beyond the imagination and for that one must stand absolutely still as though at the centre of a leap”. John Cage
Without a still point, without a pause there is no way to change anything. We have to think. But for most of us when we think we are thinking, we are in fact feeling. And when we think we are feeling we are actually thinking! So much of this happens unconsciously. And the “I’ll just get on with it” or “Just do it” attitude has a lot to do with throwing ourselves out of sorts.
So how do we start to identify these habits? Well, it is useful to observe the startle pattern and practice giving yourself time when you notice it happening. In the same way it’s also important to acknowledge your emotions, especially the negative ones so you can start to see them before you act on them.
If you ever find yourself wishing you had thought before you had opened your mouth, this is essential. It’s not an act of repression, but so many negative emotions are needless and get in the way of clear thinking. If you can watch them rise in your mind and keep acknowledging them, they eventually pass.
Anger, fear, doubt, boredom, craving and irritation are very good things to observe. Equally there are many emotions that are positive that can have the same effect. Confidence can turn to arrogance and excitement into mindlessness. Of course the time will come where these responses are actually needed, but most of the time they will be out by many degrees. The keyword here is needed.
"Man, know thyself" is an old axiom, but in my opinion the more fundamental one is "Man, know thy needs" - FM Alexander
We are easily distracted by many things in life; from past relationships to cats playing pianos on the internet. If you strip back what you are doing in relation to your needs you will get much more accurate emotional responses. It will also save you a great deal of time. Our mind wanders easily, if we let it and you have to observe it if you want to stop walking into rooms and forgetting what you went in there for (for example).
The same is true with physical tasks and when lifting heavy objects for example you may find yourself tightening and tensing up a lot. Of course you are aiming to minimise this by giving yourself as much time as you can and thinking about what you are going to do before you do it
Hi, I'm Edward Fisher and I believe that everyone can have a life free from back pain, neck pain, shoulder pain and many other musculoskeletal pain related conditions. I recovered from slipped discs and sciatica. I spent 10 months being unable to walk. After 3 months of Alexander Technique I was walking again. Now I show others how to overcome their own pain related conditions for themselves.
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