We want to feel more, that’s the problem and also part of the solution. Feelings only tell us what is happening in the moment. They don’t tell our bodies how to change directly. We need to change because feelings only give us experiences we already know about. You need the unknown experiences to get change in your use.
We need a way out of our normal experience otherwise we will just keep doing what feels right. If we just do what feels right nothing will ever really change, because we just do what we already know. Somehow we have to make a jump to the unknown.
“To see one must go beyond the imagination and for that one must stand absolutely still as though at the centre of a leap”. John Cage
Without a still point, without a pause there is no way to change anything. We have to think. But for most of us when we think we are thinking, we are in fact feeling. And when we think we are feeling we are actually thinking! So much of this happens unconsciously. And the “I’ll just get on with it” or “Just do it” attitude has a lot to do with throwing ourselves out of sorts.
So how do we start to identify these habits? Well, it is useful to observe the startle pattern and practice giving yourself time when you notice it happening. In the same way it’s also important to acknowledge your emotions, especially the negative ones so you can start to see them before you act on them.
If you ever find yourself wishing you had thought before you had opened your mouth, this is essential. It’s not an act of repression, but so many negative emotions are needless and get in the way of clear thinking. If you can watch them rise in your mind and keep acknowledging them, they eventually pass.
Anger, fear, doubt, boredom, craving and irritation are very good things to observe. Equally there are many emotions that are positive that can have the same effect. Confidence can turn to arrogance and excitement into mindlessness. Of course the time will come where these responses are actually needed, but most of the time they will be out by many degrees. The keyword here is needed.
"Man, know thyself" is an old axiom, but in my opinion the more fundamental one is "Man, know thy needs" - FM Alexander
We are easily distracted by many things in life; from past relationships to cats playing pianos on the internet. If you strip back what you are doing in relation to your needs you will get much more accurate emotional responses. It will also save you a great deal of time. Our mind wanders easily, if we let it and you have to observe it if you want to stop walking into rooms and forgetting what you went in there for (for example).
The same is true with physical tasks and when lifting heavy objects for example you may find yourself tightening and tensing up a lot. Of course you are aiming to minimise this by giving yourself as much time as you can and thinking about what you are going to do before you do it
For a lot of people with back pain they really do have the very simple dream of being pain free. But as life goes along many things get added to that, you realise that you can’t do certain things. It might be things in your job or just life in general. Playing the sport you want to or just playing with your kids. Being able to do simple things like get out of bed without your back screaming! Ironically you can be the one that everybody is relying on.
It’s tragic if people don’t believe you. Some people that do though and that’s really important. A lot of people go through life not being believed, because back pain isn’t visible. I remember it took many x rays, MRIs and eventually a spinal probe to show that my discs were slipped. By the time it was proven I didn’t really care because it had been so long coming I was only interested in getting pain relief. Some people go their lives without this though and even when they have had treatment they are left with the same result. It makes you skeptical.
This can lead to lots of compensations too. From lying on a back stretcher or some kind of device to wearing orthotic insoles for different leg lengths. Exercises that make little impact. Not to mention the things you do with your body to get through your day. So there is a huge fight within yourself to chase that dream of being pain free because it gets taken away in small parts that make a big impact.
My dream started out as being able to row again, and that still remained as an undercurrent whilst I was recovering. But, it wasn’t real. It wasn’t as important as not having to take pain killers or not being able to walk without aggravating my back or it failing on me. It seems ridiculous that my recovery took place with alexander technique rather than a surgeon’s scalpel. Especially as I had 4 slipped discs. But the people who I meet and work with who have had the surgery don’t always think it was the best choice. But the thing that I really want to get across is that just about anyone can do it. Just about anyone can get pain free and you can do a lot of it for yourself.
So keep that very simple dream of being pain free, because it is possible for many of you. It would be great to hear about where you are on your journey in the comments if you like or share this story so that others don’t forget that simple dream is possible too.
Sitting at a desk all day is normal now for many of us. Working from home or an office in front of a computer. If you get back pain or have bad posture, this post is for you! It won't solve all you problems, but it will help. It will help you to keep your Alexander Technique practice going too. So here are some things to watch out for.
If you are using a laptop this is there is no getting around it! The hands fall forwards and the weight of the arms and activity of the hands pull the shoulders forwards over the chest and draw the upper back forwards. The neck correspondingly shortens and pulls the head back to draw level with the screen. This misuse is practically universal. Give your body the luxury of having phone books or something under your laptop so you can look straight at it. Get a keyboard and mouse extension so you don't have to reach up. If you have a desktop it is much easier because the screen is already on top of the PC although you might need to get it a bit higher.
This one is more common among "the long legged" but is possible for everyone to be doing. Try sitting on a low chair where the level of your hips are lower than your knees. Pretty uncomfortable? If so it's probably because the lower back is out of alignment with the rest of the back. This means that all the weight of the body above the hips is being put through the back of the sitting bones and the lumbar vertebrae instead of being evenly distributed through the body. This of course is an exaggeration of what happens. But you need to been shown the exaggerated view so you can pick up on the subtlety of when it happens at your desk.
If you do notice you are sitting with your knees higher than your hips just stick a phone book (or phone books) until you notice that you have a bit more mechanical advantage when sitting. Take a look at the image of the hips. Take a look at the sitting bones. We tend to think of our sitting bones as the bony bit at the back of the bottom. However, they are much longer than this and run forwards towards the genital area. Weight needs to travel through the sitting bones evenly rather than just at the back.
Again, this can happen to anyone, but is more likely if you have short legs. Try sitting in a high chair so you feet don't touch the ground, to see what I mean. When we do this we can over tense our butt muscles and hamstrings and create too much forward movement in the hips, shortening our stature and loading the spin in bad ways. This one is harder to spot. Something to help with this would be to put some phone books/directories underneath each foot. This allows more length down the back of your leg and creates less interference up the back.
Get up and move around every 30 to 50 minutes depending on what you can do. Take a break from compressing your spine. Sitting at a desk all day is mild torture. By design we do not function this way. Get up. Get a timer or something.
Those ergonomic chairs with wheels on the bottom are not necessarily good. What is good about them is that you can adjust the height and give yourself a good position where your feet are in contact with the floor while your hips are higher than your knees. What is bad is that if the chair has the potential to move a lot on the wheels it can subtly make you tense up your body in order to keep still at your desk. Not good.
OK so in summary I am not saying that you cannot do these things and that they are terrible if you do them a bit. If you use your laptop on the train then there is no much you can do to get around this. What I am saying is that if you spend all day without paying attention to these things you are paying a price and it will come in the form of unexpected pain.
Everytime you move your mouse cursor to the left (if you are right handed) you shorten and tighten your wrist muscles. When you type on a normal keyboard you hands will flex slightly outwards. You do the same thing when you use a knife and fork or tie your shoe laces. This is because it requires skill. Anatomists refer to it as ulnar deviation. When you do the opposite of this, like when you move the mouse inwards, it tightens up your wrists and increases your chances of things like carpal tunnel syndrome or repetitive strain injury.
Also you should download f.lux to reduce your eye tension or something like it to change your devices colour temperature in the evenings.